Friends are likely to come and go throughout the seasons of your life. Job changes, moving to a new city, and becoming a parent are among the many things that may shift the friendships in your life. The demands of life and a busy career can move friends to the bottom of the priority list at times.
It may be wise however, to re-evaluate the role friends play in your life. If spending quality time with friends isn’t high on your to-do list, it may make sense to schedule a get-together sooner rather than later. After all, friends impact not just the quality of your life, but perhaps even the length of it.
If you were going to advertise on Craigslist for a best friend, what would the ad look like?
Wanted: Best Friend
Prospective candidates will:
Make me feel good about being me.
Affirm my best qualities (especially when I am feeling insecure).
Call out the best in me, and hold me accountable to the best version of myself.
Listen without judging or trying to fix me.
Give me the benefit of the doubt.
Understand me when I am grumpy or having a bad day.
Remember my birthday, favorite foods, music, and art.
Know my story and love me regardless.
Spend time with me, just because they enjoy my company.
Speak well of me when I am not present.
Speak the truth to me when no one else will.
Never shame me, diminish me, or make me feel small.
Become excited about what I am excited about.
Celebrate my wins!